When I was young and witnessed the coming of five more siblings, (1 girl and 4 boys), I thought there was not much big deal in being a wife aside from taking care of the house and, of course, delivering babies and taking care of them.
This did not change even when I got married and, together with my wife, started planning our family.
This ignorance, to my chagrin, is not, by any means, solely confined in me. I can hardly hear men, other than those in the medical profession, talk of other things about women, except that which they are most interested in – sex.
Having an OB-Gyne (Obstetrics and Gynecology) for a daughter enlightened me somewhat. Now I am a little bit educated in the sexual health needs of women and more considerate in this aspect (I don’t insist on sex when she is “unsafe”).
And you should, too, if you want to get the most out of your relationship. You should know that beyond being just a companion and a carrier of your sperm, your spouse, companion, mate or whatever, will be delighted if you can show a little concern and understanding of the various sexual health issues she will surely encounter, especially when years start piling up on her.
Some of these are:
Gynecological concerns:
Gynecology is a branch in medicine that deals with the diseases and disorders of the female reproductive system, i.e., uterus, vagina, ovaries, breasts, etc.
Unknown to most men, women can have any of the following gynecological disorders – endometriosis, ovarian cyst, fibroid, and vaginitis, among others. .
Or any of the more serious and lethal forms of gynecological cancers like cervical, endometrial andovarian.
Deaths from these health issues are avoidable through lifestyle changes and regular Pap smear, which a lot of women take for granted, and men ignore..
Painful intercourse:
If your partner tells you that it hurts to have sex, she may be telling the truth and not just putting you off. She could be having dyspareunia – painful vaginal penetration.
It is not a health issue by itself but could be a symptom of more serious medical condition or other phsychosocial problems.
Rather than look for someone to take you in without pain, have your partner visit a physician. Don’t ruin your long term relationship for short term gratification.
Menstruation and breast health:
Menstruation is a signal that says a woman is already ready for pregnancy. It is the process by which the endometrium lining of the uterus is shed from the body, thus producing a woman’s monthly “period”.
For men, it is sexual abstinence, unless one doesn’t mind getting bloodied all over.
Other than that, guys generally have no idea, or don’t care, that not all women are created equal in matters of menstrual cycles. Some experience dysmenorrhoea, or painful periods, while others have irregular periods, discharges too much or too little blood.
Never take this as a natural aberration. Some studies show a positive link between breast cancer and menstrual cycle problems.
Pregnancy and child birth:
My daughter was devastated the first time she had a patient die on her watch as a medical intern. She has become so inured with death since then.
But she still feels sad to deliver a full-term stillborn baby because it is one death that could have been avoided had the mother, and the father, been more careful, more conscientious and aware of the situation.
Making a baby does not start and end with sex. If one takes shape, the woman carries it with her for nine months before putting her life on the line to bring her baby into the world. Between conception and delivery a woman undergoes several changes, physical and emotional, and will manifest certain needs men might find strange or unreasonable.
Try as much as you can to accommodate these even if you have to bend so low to break your back.
In fact, be thankful that it is her, not you, to suffer the long process of conceiving and delivering a baby.
Menopause:
Is the time when a woman’s “periods” come to an end and her capacity to produce a baby ceases.
It is a time, too, when a woman exhibits hot flashes, night sweats, pain during intercourse, anxiety, irritability and the need to urinate more often.
If these bother you, take a hike rather than meet them head on. You would not be doing yourself, and her, any good if you fuss and bother about these physical and emotional changes in your woman.
Be happy to know that a menopausal woman hasn’t lost her sex urge and that you can still have a good sexual life with her when she’s over the hump.
Women are complex creatures. I even call them enigmatic. Beneath the charming smile and other physical attributes that often prompt men to treat them, sometimes disparagingly, as sex objects, is a sensing, feeling and thinking individual with needs men are too ignorant or indifferent about.
I bet you know more about what’s wrong with your car than what ails your woman.
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